Nobody knows the answer to this question yet. But as GRRM says, everything shall be explained in due time. So this will be mere speculation based on canon evidence.
Who is Three-eyed Crow?
The Three-eyed Crow is beyond a doubt Brynden Rivers, son of King Aegon IV and known as Bloodraven.
The last greenseer, the singers called him, but in Bran's dreams he
was still a three-eyed crow. When Meera Reed had asked him his true
name, he made a ghastly sound that might have been a chuckle. "I wore
many names when I was quick, but even I once had a mother, and the
name she gave me at her breast was Brynden."
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III
Also:
"But," said Bran, "he heard me."
"He heard a whisper on the wind, a rustling amongst the leaves. You
cannot speak to him, try as you might. I know. I have my own ghosts,
Bran. A brother that I loved, a brother that I
hated, a woman I desired. Through the trees,
I see them still, but no word of mine has ever reached them. The past
remains the past. We can learn from it, but we cannot change
it."
ADWD-Bran III
This fits because:
- Bloodraven loved either Daemon or Daeron II, both his half brothers.
- Blooraven hated Aegor Rivers, his half brother.
- Bloodraven was infatuated with his half sister, Shiera Seastar. She was one of the chief reasons of the rivalry between Bloodraven and Bittersteel.
Also we have his physical appearence where Bran observes that he bears the birthmark Bloodraven had:
What skin the corpse lord showed was white, save for a bloody blotch that crept up his neck onto his cheek. His white hair was fine and
thin as root hair and long enough to brush against the earthen floor.
Roots coiled around his legs like wooden serpents
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II
He also confessed that he was a brother of the Night's Watch in the same chapter:
"Are you the three-eyed crow?" Bran heard himself say. A three-eyed
crow should have three eyes. He has only one, and that one red. Bran
could feel the eye staring at him, shining like a pool of blood in the
torchlight. Where his other eye should have been, a thin white root
grew from an empty socket, down his cheek, and into his neck.
"A … crow?" The pale lord's voice was dry. His lips moved slowly, as if they had forgotten how to form words. "Once, aye. Black of
garb and black of blood."
Did Bloodraven himself had any near-fatal experiences?
We know that Bloodraven must have faced two near-death events:
He suffered a greivous injury to his head/face in duel against his half-brother Aegor Rivers aka Bittersteel. He lost his eye as a result but survived.
He stared so hard that Bloodraven felt it. The king's sorcerer had
turned to study him as he went by. He had one eye, and that one red.
The other was an empty socket, the gift Bittersteel had given him upon the Redgrass Field.
Dunk & Egg: The Sworn Sword
He was lost beyond the wall so it is possible that he may have faced a near-death experience out there due to exposure if nothing else.
Bloodraven would rise to become Lord Commander of the Night's Watch in
239 AC, serving until his disappearance during a ranging beyond the
Wall in 252 AC.
TWOIAF: Aegon V
Did Jojen and Bran face any near-death experiences before being chosen?
We have example of Jojen as well. Three-eyed Crow came to him when he was almost fatally ill. He came to Bran when he was also near-death.
Summer raised his head from Bran's lap, and gazed at the mudman with
his dark golden eyes.
"When I was little I almost died of greywater fever. That was when
the crow came to me."
"He came to me after I fell," Bran blurted. "I was asleep for a long time. He said I had to fly or die, and I woke up, only I was
broken and I couldn't fly after all."
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Conclusion
If we observe the pattern here, two things are common:
- All three were followers of the old Gods.
- All three were in a life-threatening situation.
So by that logic we can infer that yes Bran's accident was necessary for his recruitment.