As far as I can tell I haven't noticed in the LOTR universe any mentions of 2nd husbands or wives (assuming that two people declaring themselves partners are married). I understand that Tolkien, as a devout Catholic, would be set against divorces, but what about natural occurrences when one of the partners dies?

We could assume that in case of mortals there would be (after a certain time) chance for the widowed ones to find another love and yet again, I don't recall anyone mentioning that! But in case of elves, that can (in theory) come back from the dead, such "natural dissolving of the marriage" might be bit more complicated.

Does this mean that in the Middle-earth everyone mates for life?

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    Possibly relevant to mating for life: There's the case of Tar-Aldarion and Erendis of Numenor. Theirs was an unhappy marriage, and they separated after the birth of their daughter.
    – Lexible
    Oct 20, 2015 at 2:50
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    Elves do mate for life. It's not just a rule or agreement; it's their nature. Finwe's case was very exceptional. Very few Dwarves marry, let alone marry twice, but it's not necessarily a rule afaik.
    – Dennis_E
    Oct 20, 2015 at 7:52

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The most obvious example is Finwë, High King of the Noldor. His first wife, Míriel, died after the birth of their child (Fëanor, who you may have heard of)1. Shortly after this, he married Indis, of the Vanyar, who bore him four more children. From the published Silmarillion:

[I]n the bearing of her son Míriel was consumed in spirit and body; and after his birth she yearned for release from the labours of living. And when she had named him, she said to Finwë: 'Never again shall I bear child; for strength that would have nourished the life of many has gone forth into Fëanor.'

Then Finwë was grieved, for the Noldor were in me youth of their days, and he desired to bring forth many children into the Miss of Aman; and he said: 'Surely there is healing in Aman? Here all weariness can find rest.' But when Míriel languished still, Finwë sought the counsel of Manwë, and Manwë delivered her to the care of Irmo in Lórien. At their parting (for a little while as he thought) Finwë was sad, for it seemed an unhappy chance that the mother should depart and miss the beginning at least of the childhood days of her son.


Now it came to pass that Finwë took as his second wife Indis the Fair. She was a Vanya, close kin of Ingwë the High King, golden-haired and tall, and in all ways unlike Míriel. Finwë loved her greatly, and was glad again. But the shadow of Míriel did not depart from the house of Finwë, nor from his heart; and of all whom he loved Fëanor had ever the chief share of his thought.

The Silmarillion III Quenta Silmarillion Chapter 6: "Of Fëanor and the Unchaining of Melkor"

Finwë's desire to re-marry was actually a cause of some consternation in Aman, but I talk about that more elsewhere on this site.

I want to address concerns that this was in some way a special case; it wasn't. It was exceptional for two reasons only:

  1. It was the first. This was the first time in Elvish history that a widowed Elf had expressed a desire to re-marry. Because it was the first, it required a judgement from the lawgivers of the Elves. That the lawgivers happened to be the Elves' gods2 isn't relevant

  2. It took place in the Undying Lands. The Elves weren't supposed to die in the Undying Lands, that was kind of the point. The fact that Míriel did caused a bit of a philosophical ruckus that's far too complicated to get into.

It's not entirely accurate to say that Finwë was given permission to remarry; it would be more correct to say that his desire identified a gap in the laws, and it was ruled that this desire was just, under certain circumstances (most notably that the departed had to agree to never return to life as long as their ex-spouse was alive; Elves are a little weird like that).

There are only two other examples I can think of:

  • Túrin I, sixth of the Ruling Stewards of Gondor, is noted in The Peoples of Middle-earth as being quite unusual for having married twice:

    [Túrin I] was wedded twice and had several children (a thing already rare and remarkable among the nobles of Gondor); but only the last, a child born in his old age, was a son.

    The History of Middle-earth XII The Peoples of Middle-earth Chapter VII: "The Heirs of Elendil"

  • Of arguable canonicity is Ottor Wæfre (later called Eriol), a fifth-century Saxon who stumbles on the isle of Tol Eressëa, where the Elves tell him their ancient legends; this was Tolkien's framing device for The Book of Lost Tales, the earliest draft of what would come to be called The Silmarillion:

    Ottor Wæfre settined on the island of Heligoland in the North Sea, and he wedded a woman named Cwén (Old English: 'woman', 'wide'); they had two sons named 'after his father' Hengest and Horsa 'to avenge [Ottor's father]' (hengest is another Old English word for 'horse').

    Then sea-longing gripped Ottor Wæfre: he was a son of Eärendel, born under his beam. If a beam from Eärendel fell on a child new-born he becomes 'a child of Earendel' and a wandered. (So also in The Cottage of Lost Play Eriol is called by the author and by Lindo a 'son of Eärendel'.) After the death of Cwén Ottor left his young children.

    History of Middle-earth I The Book of Lost Tales, Part One Chapter 1: "The Cottage of Lost Play" Notes and Commentary

    Ottor later goes on to marry Naimi, a niece of Vairë3:

    In Tol Eressëa [Ottor/Eriol] wedded, being made young by limpe4 (here also called by the Old English word lip), Naimi (Éadgifu), niece of Vairë, and they had a son named Heorrenda.

    History of Middle-earth II The Book of Lost Tales, Part Two Chapter 6: "The History of Eriol or Ælfwine and the End of the Tales"

1 I'm simplifying massively. What actually happened is that Míriel was so wearied by giving birth to Fëanor that she went to dwell in Lórien (the region of Aman, not Lothlórien of Middle-earth) for healing. But she didn't find a whole lot of relief there, so she decided to depart from her body and live in Mandos as an unhoused spirit.

2 Again, vastly oversimplifying. Although maybe not that vastly, depending on how you look at it

3 Not to be confused with the Vala Vairë; they are different

4 Limpe is an Elvish beverage fairly similar to the Greek ambrosia; the word literally translates to "fairy drink", and is said to heal all ills and is strongly implied to have made Eriol immortal

  • OK, but this seems a VERY special case since the Mandos himself allows for the 2nd marriage, which in real world would be akin to getting permission from Pope himself (if not from HIS boss). Are there any more such occurrences that didn't involve involvement of the (one of) most powerful beeings in the world?
    – Yasskier
    Oct 20, 2015 at 2:18
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    @Yasskier While it is a special case, it results in a rule being set that allows the dissolution of marriage under certain circumstances; it's more like the Pope officially changing doctrine. There is one more case I found, of arguable canonicity, that I'm in the process of editing in Oct 20, 2015 at 2:19
  • Well, one can argue that there is different "law of God" for kings than for commoners -en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Henry_VIII_of_England
    – Yasskier
    Oct 20, 2015 at 2:25
  • So, of all the races of men, hobbits, dwarves, elves, orcs, trolls, et al. in LOTR, which is set in prehistoric times, not one was ever polygamous?
    – user14111
    Oct 20, 2015 at 2:47
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    @user14111 If they were, Tolkien never wrote about it; in fairness he didn't write a whole lot about the breeding habits of most species Oct 20, 2015 at 2:52

Has anyone gotten married more than once in the LOTR universe?

Yes, this does occur. Finwë, High King of the Noldor, was widowed after marrying Míriel Serindë. He later married Indis.

However, this seems to be the only occurrence. I can find no other reference to second wives, and none to second husbands, stepmothers or stepfathers.

Does this mean that in the Middle-earth everyone mates for life?

Doubtful. Not too much of the culture and customs of ordinary humans is described in the books, one would assume because they aren't all that much different from the humans we know. It's rather the elves, a noble race, and nobility who seem to have qualms with remarriage.

I understand that Tolkien, as a devout Catholic, would be set against divorce

Unclear. JRR Tolkien's father, Arthur Reuel, was born out of his father John Benjamin Tolkien's second marriage. JRR's childhood friend Robert Gilson is described as having a stepmother. So at least remarriage didn't seem to carry a very strong taboo in his milieu. However, JRR got his Catholic beliefs from his mother, who was widowed at age 26, but did not remarry in the ten years that she survived her husband. Make of that what you will.

  • So this was posted like half a minute after Jason Baker's answer (which I upvoted for the quote and context he added), guess I was still working on inserting the links as he posted. In their original versions, our answers were pretty much identical. I would appreciate an explanation of the downvote.
    – Junuxx
    Oct 20, 2015 at 2:14
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    There is an unwritten rule on this site: Downvotes are almost never explained. If the downvoter wanted to explain it, he or she would have done so already. Best to ignore it and move on.
    – Wad Cheber
    Oct 20, 2015 at 2:28
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    Regarding your last point: although I'm not a Catholic (and know very little about Catholicism) I've always been under the impression that Catholic widows/widowers were allowed to remarry Oct 20, 2015 at 2:48
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    Re downvotes: haters gonna hate.
    – Lexible
    Oct 20, 2015 at 6:11
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    Not "dissolve the marriage" </Catholic pet peeve> Oct 20, 2015 at 9:56

Elves and Númenóreans do not have divorce, but can remarry if one of the spouses die.

Other answers have dealt well with elves, and especially the case of Finwë and Míriel, and what it can really even mean for an elf to "die" in this context.

The only other race that Tolkien has said similar things about are the Númenóreans.

Desire for marriage, the begetting, bearing, and rearing of children, thus occupied a smaller place in the lives of Númenóreans, even of the women, than among ordinary Men. Marriage was regarded as natural for all, and once entered into was permanent [footnote:] The Númenóreans were monogamous, as is later said. No one, of whatever rank, could divorce a husband or wife, nor take another spouse in the lifetime of the first.
The Nature of Middle-earth - "Lives of the Númenóreans"

Númenóreans were strictly monogamous: by law, and by their “tradition”: that is by the tradition of the original Edain concerning conduct, afterwards re-inforced by Eldarin example and teaching. There were in the early centuries few cases of the breach of the law, or even of desire to break it. The Númenóreans, or Dúnedain, were still in our terms “fallen Men”; but they were descendants of ancestors who were in general wholly repentant, detesting all the corruptions of the “Shadow”; and they were specially graced. In general they had little inclination to, and a conscious detestation of lust, greed, hate and cruelty, and tyranny. Not all of course were so noble. There were such things as wickedness among them, at first very rarely to be seen. For they were not selected by any test save that of belonging to the Three Houses of the Edain. Among them were no doubt a few of the wild men and renegades of old days, and possibly (though this cannot be asserted) actual conscious servants of the Enemy.

A second marriage was permitted, by traditional law, if one of the partners died young, leaving the other in vigour and still with a need or desire of children; but the cases were naturally very rare. Death untimely, whether by sickness or mischance, seldom occurred in the early centuries. This the Númenóreans recognized as due to the “grace of the Valar” (which might be withheld in general or in particular cases, if it ceased to be merited): the land was blessed, and all things, including the Sea, were friendly to them.
The Nature of Middle-earth - "Lives of the Númenóreans"

Carl Hostetter argues that the reason for this is that Tolkien has said Númenóreans are meant to represent a level near unfallen Man.

while the Númenóreans were nonetheless fallen, like all mankind, they were (initially, and for long) granted a special grace to return to a state nearer to that of unfallen Man (and thus nearer to that of the Eldar). This state is exemplified not only in their increased lifespan, but in their moral character, including their attitudes and behaviours concerning marriage, which in these matters is the same as that of the (corporately) unfallen Eldar.
The Nature of Middle-earth - "Appendix I - Metaphysical and Theological Themes"

This would stand to reason that regular Men do not not have this restriction.

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