I'm trying to find a book I read several years ago, it's been impossible for me to pull this title up with my search terms. I'm hoping against hope that someone can recognize this series! I can't get this dynamic out of my head.
It's a fantasy series and there are at least three books and I believe a book preceding it that's unrelated to the main story line.
The main character is a girl, I believe she is an assassin, or some kind of a guardswoman. She is pursuing (?) something, either a man, or that man is some antagonistic group, who is perhaps searching for the same thing?
She determines that in some way they are drawn together. They have a psychic link. He pursues her, and midway through the first book, they finally encounter one another, there's a chase-- I believe there is some implication of heightened senses or being a shapeshifter or wolves or some sort (?)
When they meet and get intimate the first time, the narration talks about drums in the street... or maybe downstairs, or maybe just in their head.
Afterwards she flees, devastaing him and leaving them both with this pining connection for one another. I believe they can, to some distance, communicate psychically.
She winds up on a ship... eventually with him? or some other guy. I believe there are some ruins?
The final book is about an approaching army of some beast or monster or demonic race, and a woman who is pregant and psychically linked to her child. They're marching on the main city.
Any one have any clue?
You would be the source of HUGE relief!