So what I remember from the book (possibly short story) is that two planets were at war, one lost and all the fighters get killed(or sent to prison?) and the rest get to go to the winning planet as refugees, if they pass the "I'm not a fighter check". The technology is very advanced.
A really good mental fighter woman gets blockers in her mind to pose as a regular person so she doesn't get killed/sent to prison. She gets an apartment of some sort on the new planet she's on, and gets to work as a secretary/assistant for a big company owned/lead by a man who's also a really good mental fighter. They then meet in a computer thing/dream/mental world of some sort and he tries to find out who she is. The fight is mental in some way. They end up falling in love
I read it less than 5 years ago and the story was written less than 20 years ago, it was in English and I thought it was a story by Ilona Andrews, someone they know/have collaborated with, or someone with that style. It's either ya or above.
I remember some other things that might be from this story, but not for sure. There were other secretaries, and they didn't like the main character. They thought she dressed poorly. Either the main character or one of the secretaries has red hair. She was very good at her new job, but also super overqualified, which she didn't want anyone to find out. In her spare time she might have been reading books, but again, I'm not sure if that's from this story or not.