Sounds like the Insignia trilogy by S. J. Kincaid; first book was released in 2012. The book starting with a V would be the second one, Vortex.
More than anything, Tom Raines wants to be important, though his shadowy life is anything but that. For years, Tom’s drifted from casino to casino with his unlucky gambler of a dad, gaming for their survival. Keeping a roof over their heads depends on a careful combination of skill, luck, con artistry, and staying invisible.
Then one day, Tom stops being invisible. Someone’s been watching his virtual-reality prowess, and he’s offered the incredible—a place at the Pentagonal Spire, an elite military academy. There, Tom’s instincts for combat will be put to the test and if he passes, he’ll become a member of the Intrasolar Forces, helping to lead his country to victory in World War III. Finally, he’ll be someone important: a superhuman war machine with the tech skills that every virtual-reality warrior dreams of. Life at the Spire holds everything that Tom’s always wanted—friends, the possibility of a girlfriend, and a life where his every action matters—but what will it cost him?
He was taken in by authorities and put into a program where he fought far-away battles with machines controlled through quantum entanglement.
Basically a ripoff of Ender Game, the kids were trained to control machines via proxy which were doing the dirty job for them.
His love interest fought against him for the Chinese.
Tom is part of the american faction and works to take down the Russo-Chinese alliance.
Plagiarising my own answer to Series about proxy space battles via implanted computers in kids