TV show (or made for TV movie) with a human male dating an alien female

Question

I remember watching something on the Sci-Fi channel when I was younger, of what seemed to be a really bad TV show or made-for-TV movie that took place in "THE FUTURE!!" and had two young adults in a relationship, one human male, and one alien female. I believe the female was bald, but I distinctively remember the alien girl had what looked like leopard spots on her back - and the guy got a tattoo resembling them to try to fit in with his alien girlfriend. Somehow, showing one's partner their spots seemed to be some sort of mating ritual (like I said, it was bad). If I remember correctly, while the guy thought his partner would be impressed, instead the female seemed to be offended that the guy got the tattoo, but nonetheless they mated anyway (If I remember correctly there was some cheesy "Have you ever had sex with an alien before?" line that went with this).

I also happen to remember that they would play music together, I think the guy played a keyboard while the girl played some sort of wind controller. It was some new-agey electronica stuff (typical 90s FUTURE MUSIC!!). I think they were playing music together and this led to their mating encounter.

If I remember correctly, it felt modern when I watched it in the late 90s/early 00s, so I think it was from around that time. It's probably not much to go on, and I think it was just one small scene in the show/movie, and I have no idea if it was even related to the main plot or not, probably making it even harder to identify, but I was hoping someone might have some idea.

Answer 1

The movie is called Alien Nation (warning, TvTropes link). First it was a movie, then it was a tv show.

Alien Nation (1988) is a Buddy Cop movie with a Sitcom twist: the minority partner is a space alien, part of a ship of "Newcomers" who ended up on Earth when the slave ship they were being transported on crash-landed. After Det. Matthew Sykes' partner is killed in a shootout, he is partnered with Sam Francisco (whom he insists on calling "George"), the first Newcomer detective. While investigating the death of Sykes' partner, they uncover a dangerous Newcomer drug.

The television series, based on the film Alien Nation, lasted for 22 episodes from September, 1989 to May, 1990. Five television movies were later produced, released between 1994 and 1997.

Aliens (called Newcomers or EnCies) who are bald and have spots, were a slave species to different alien overlords and are extremely strong compared to humans.

In one of more memorable episodes of the tv series Det. Matthew dates the daughter of his alien partner Sam Francisco and they have to take classes together which teach them mating habits of humans and aliens so they can have safe sex. Turns out that safe sex means different thing to aliens, because aliens have spots all over their bodies and if the female is not put in the proper mood and relaxed (by playing music) enough, touching those spots during love making produces extremely violent reaction. In fact, the first time they try to make love his alien lover accidentally cracks two of his ribs because he refused to go to classes and thought he could just improvise it and everything will be fine, despite the warnings from his partner Sam that it is a very bad idea, since humans are much squishier than aliens. He is considered lucky to have survived at all, because she could have snapped his neck or worse (it is an instinctive reaction, they literally can't control it). The name of the episode is: Alien Nation: Body and Soul, you can see the first attempt.

The talk with his partner Sam before the incident went something like this:

Mat: You know that I will be gentle and caring lover, right?

Sam: That's not the point. The point is that you don't know what you're doing and I don't want my daughter to accidentally kill my partner during sex.

Interesting things, which might help other identification questions:

For aliens, sea water is like hydrochloric acid, it burns and dissolves them.

They get drunk from spoiled milk, it is like alcohol to them.

Certain laundry detergents produce intoxicating effects on them. The slavemaster aliens produced the drug similar to detergent to keep Newcomers compliant. The plot point of the movie is when one of the aliens approaches human gang and they modify laundry detergent to be much more potent and act as a drug used for control. The drug produces "high" but results in increased strength and violence.

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