I remember reading it around 2004.
Possibly set in England.
There is magic in the world. It's a series of books, and each book is its own story featuring a different protagonist. There were at least 2 different books, but I'm not sure how many are in the series.
Each book also features a sorceror who can't touch silver. He never wanted to eat in front of other people because that required touching silverware. He eventually acquires stainless steel cutlery.
There's a character who has multiple lives (maybe 7?) and each life is tied to a match in a matchbox. That character might be the sorceror as well, but I can't remember. There's a scene where another character lights one of the matches, which causes him to catch fire and lose one of his lives. In another scene, he is impaled by a spear which caused him to die again by having a curtain rod impale him (might have been his alter-ego in another world?).