I've been watching this show on itunes and came to a much different conclusion, though I think I may have liked it if the Tony stood for a gay character. Many of the episodes revolve around Jeannie's jealousy of the other women Tony dates. Rather than showing lots of restraint, I find that Tony doesn't have that much, though he does follow a strict kind of an honor code. He and Roger oggle every young woman that walks past them, and although I understand that Jeannie inserted herself into his life against his wishes, they are often seen making out and dating - he is apparently attracted to her and cares for her. Yet he coldly continues to remind her that she may not keep him from dating other women, and ironically seems OK with attempting to keep her in her bottle for days or weeks at a time. Yeah, I get it that it's coming from the Master/Jeannie situation comedy, to paint her as the impulsive trouble maker to his straight-laced career aspirations, but I bring it up to conclude that yes, the "secret" of having a Jeannie in a bottle is symbolic, but it is symbolic of the secret of living with a woman he's not married to, which was not as socially acceptable then. If I understand correctly they get married in the last season, which most likely released the most significant tension and lead to the end of the show.