This is likely How Did I Become the Princess?, aka Starting From Today, I'm a Princess?!, also identified here.
Once upon a time, I was a weary, nameless warrior with neither family nor money. Some might say this was just my lot in life, but not me. When I am given the chance to return to the past, I take it, hoping to return to simpler times. However, after turning back time, I am shocked to learn that I am actually Princess Nanael, the long lost daughter of the emperor of Ovyulia. With my new name and new home, I’m dead-set on not losing my family ever again.
The main character is a warrior that recently fought and won against the demon lord, and is subsequently poisoned by nobles that feared she'd betray them. She contacts a dragon she met earlier and it grants her wish of turning back time. Upon re-awakening she discovers she's the emperor's daughter.
The emperor proves that she is his daughter by a magic ball; he and she have the same "type" of reaction to the ball, demonstrating that they're related.
She also has two brothers (twins). All 3 have white hair.
I can't confirm any of the details regarding the wig or the brother's fiance. These appear to be later in the story and I didn't find them while skimming.