I'm trying to track down these books I read when I was younger. I've done some fruitless searching online and am stumped. It's been a good 10 years since I read any of them. Cover is very 70s/80s (lots of blue I want to say?).
The series of books involves reptilian-alien protagonists. These people form platonic life-bonds, normally with members of their own species. The first book stars a female. She bonds to a human male (I want to say his name was Daniel) instead of to one of her own species, causing family strife. Later on in the book she goes through some sort of priesthood(?) training involving rosary-type beads, during which she starts having feelings for her (same-species male) mentor, and comes to realize her bond-mate has become evil and is using her for nefarious purposes. She later either breaks her bond or kills her bond-mate and is very traumatized by it. I don't remember much else except there seemed to be a lot of metaphysical stuff in it.