I'd like to remember the name of a scifi novel that had a strong military theme with lots of political intrigue where the space battles were fought in slow motion due to some limitation of the ships not being able to go the speed of light or something. The pilots of the ships or maybe the smaller attack fighters had to be able to handle the gravity and intense physical environment and often died on their missions or did what were basically suicide missions. I think the protagonist ended up having a romance with a pilot of a fighter on the opposite side or something. Anyway, I got it from the library and I think there were sequels to the book but the library didn't have them or something. Perhaps in the end I did read the full story but I keep remembering it like I haven't read the sequel but meant to...any ideas, I'd love to put this to rest one way or another.
Sounds a bit like the Dread Empire's Fall Series by Walter Jon Williams. The first book is titled The Praxis. I can't remember the exact details, but the "fighter" pilots really act more like a communication relay for missile swarms, giving last minute guidance and correction. The space combat is limited to Newtonian physics, so nothing is faster then light speed, no inertial dampners so when the ships accelerate at 3g for sustained periods the crews stand a chance of dying of strokes\aneurysms. Most colonies have space elevators.
That ring a bell? Here's the wikipedia page for it.
Hope this helps.
BTW, the other books in the series are The Sundering & Conventions of War.
Forever War by Joe Haldeman maybe?
Could it be one of C J Cherryh's Alliance-Union Novels. It sounds like one of the novels from the Company Wars section, possibly Rimrunners.
There are a number of her other novels which have similar themes however. Basically interstellar travel is some kind of jump drive, but when they reach a system ships manoeuvre at sub light speeds and as a result they tend to be trying to follow as closely behind the light speed wave indicating their arrival, changes in course etc.
A number of her novels feature ships which drop faster more manoeuvrable fighters.