Ron, Harry and Hermione were best friends, as we all know.

However Ron was frequently nasty to Hermione, constantly making jokes about her cleverness and other personality traits. In short, he was very ill-behaved toward Hermione.

That being the case, can anyone offer specific reasons for why Hermione fell in love with him, either in her own words (or in the words of her creator)?

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JKR spoke to this issue in a recent interview. Hermione was drawn to Ron because he's funny, the perfect counterpoint to her intensity.

"Just like her creator, she has a real weakness for a funny man. These uptight girls, they do like them funny … It's such a relief from being so intense yourself – you need someone who takes life, or appears to take life, a little more lightheartedly."

In the novels, her attraction to him seems to have been fanned by their enforced proximity over the past few weeks, the fact that they're being chased by the Death-Eaters and the fact that Ron actually uses his brain for a change

‘But how did you get in there?’ he asked, staring from the fangs to Ron. ‘You need to speak Parseltongue!’
‘He did!’ whispered Hermione. ‘Show him, Ron!’
Ron made a horrible, strangled hissing noise.
‘It’s what you did to open the locket,’ he told Harry apologetically. ‘I had to have a few goes to get it right, but,’ he shrugged modestly, ‘we got there in the end.’
‘He was amazing!’ said Hermione. ‘Amazing!’

  • I hope you didn't edit this answer because you're planning to close my question as a dupe! :-[
    – Rand al'Thor
    Sep 12, 2015 at 12:34
  • @randal'thor - Tempting, but no. One is asking a general question, the other is asking for a check from the novels themselves.
    – Valorum
    Sep 12, 2015 at 13:03

Well, I suppose if you wanted to be romantic about it, you could say that opposites attract and whatnot.

But actually, JKR has stated in a recent interview that she thinks Ron isn't suitable for Hermione, and wishes she had written the epilogue to have Hermione end up with Harry instead.

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    That's no quite what she said; theguardian.com/books/2014/feb/02/…
    – Valorum
    Jun 22, 2014 at 6:04
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    The tldr version: Rowling wanted Hermione and Ron to wind up together, no matter how much the characters had to be stretched to achieve that. There's also the fact that Hermione, for all her bossiness, has only two friends in the world*, as far as canon shows. That's the kind of thing that can leave you with a lot of insecurities, such as the ones she started with, before befriending the boys. *three if you count Ginny.
    – user62707
    Oct 1, 2014 at 14:36

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