It can go either way. Certainly Anakin cared enough about Padme, even when he was pursing her (and she initially resisted his advances in spite of her complimentary attraction to the handsome young Jedi) to not deliberately attempt to manipulate her to his will. And, yes, naturally Padme, with her experience as a two-term Naboo queen and a Senator, was experienced in the art of negotiation and reading people, Force-sensitive or not. However, it might be postulated that her life in politics had left her lonely, wanting a man and eventually a family as her older sister Sola had already done. Yet she did not want to leave behind her political ambitions. With Anakin, she could have it both ways, so it could be said that whatever Force-driven seduction that Anakin may have been subconsciously employing (not unlike how he Pod-raced as a boy), Padme willingly gave into it for her own desires. Still a fair deal, in spite of how it all turns out.
In a fan fiction writing, Yoda chides Luke for his infatuation with Mara Jade..."Jedi Boy meets girl...wants girl...mate they do...girl finds herself with youngling, parents angered are and blame Jedi for using his powers to advantage of their daughter take!"