In the movie, it seems to me a subtle truth that the simulation kills people when they outright fail the simulation. Meaning, if someone is, say Abnegation and Amity, but not any of the others, when those tests come, they will fail the simulation, and also consequently die.
However, it seems tempting to say that amity shouldn't fight when there's not a right to do so because of course you know the definition of amity structures how people of that faction should behave. This makes sense because alternatively, you know that Tris did fight and even hurt people-but her intentions changed everything. She didn't want to hurt people, but did what she had to to live. Or else, how could she be Amity?
So, while there's not a completely logical correlation between the previous observation and the statement: "because what Jenine said about Tris's family deaths being futile was a lie, Tris wasn't completely wrong in attacking Jenine", is it reasonable to conclude that Tris didn't die in the simulation when she fell because of exactly that reason?