Jorah clearly feels great affection and loyalty for Daenerys. Are his feelings romantic or sexual in nature? Or does he see himself as a friend, counsellor, or father figure?

The age gap between them could be a barrier to romantic feelings on Jorah's part. Jorah is aged about 50, whereas Daenerys is in her early 20s in the television show and only 13 in the books.

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    There are a lot of allusions to Jorah "loving" Dany, as more than just his Queen. Also, he tells her that she looks like his ex-wife and love Lynesse Hightower. He also kisses her strongly full on the lips one time, so there's that :)
    – Möoz
    Commented May 29, 2015 at 4:15
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    The emphasis on "LOVE" makes it sound like a third grader. Dany and Jorah, sitting in a tree / K-I-S-S-I-N-G! Commented May 29, 2015 at 4:53
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    I've edited the question to remove terminology like "LOVE" and "friendzone". The edits are extensive, and may have removed some of the humour/irony intended by the original poster, but IMO they improve the clarity of the question. Commented May 29, 2015 at 9:11
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    5 downvotes. How is the question not useful or unclear. In the show, his feelings are ambiguous but as the accepted answer shows, his feelings are crystal clear in the books. It was a mistake not adapting those scenes as is IMO. Commented May 29, 2015 at 9:23
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    I think the downvotes were primarily because of the style of the question, not its content. Like Wikipedia, SE's main purpose is to be a useful reference source. In general, statements like "my personal feeling is...", and highly informal slang terms like "friendzone" are best avoided in SE questions. Commented May 29, 2015 at 9:31

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Yes! and he's even blatant about it too (in the books).

On many occasions Jorah shows signs of not only loving Daenerys as his sovereign and her being the Mother of Dragons, he also shows signs of having feelings towards her, romantically.

He confesses to Dany that his second wife Lynesse Hightower looks like Dany, which Dany realises that it explains a lot:

She gave him leave to go, but as he was lifting the flap of her tent, she could not stop herself calling after him with one last question. “What did she look like, your Lady Lynesse?”
Ser Jorah smiled sadly. “Why, she looked a bit like you, Daenerys.” He bowed low. “Sleep well, my queen.”
Dany shivered, and pulled the lionskin tight about her. She looked like me. It explained much that she had not truly understood. He wants me, she realized. He loves me as he loved her, not as a knight loves his queen but as a man loves a woman.
-A Song of Ice and Fire: Book Two - A Clash of Kings, Chapter Twelve (Daenerys I).

In A Storm of Swords he grabs her and kisses her when they're alone and tells her that he loves her and that they should get married, but she kindly walks him straight back to his Friendzone:

“What if Captain Groleo refuses to change course, though? And Arstan, Strong Belwas, what will they do?”
Ser Jorah stood. “Perhaps it’s time you found that out.”
“Yes,” she decided. “I’ll do it!” Dany threw back the coverlets and hopped from the bunk. “I’ll see the captain at once, command him to set course for Astapor.” She bent over her chest, threw open the lid, and seized the first garment to hand, a pair of loose sandsilk trousers. “Hand me my medallion belt,” she commanded Jorah as she pulled the sandsilk up over her hips. “And my vest -” she started to say, turning.
Ser Jorah slid his arms around her.
“Oh,” was all Dany had time to say as he pulled her close and pressed his lips down on hers. He smelled of sweat and salt and leather, and the iron studs on his jerkin dug into her naked breasts as he crushed her hard against him. One hand held her by the shoulder while the other slid down her spine to the small of her back, and her mouth opened for his tongue, though she never told it to. His beard is scratchy, she thought, but his mouth is sweet. The Dothraki wore no beards, only long mustaches, and only Khal Drogo had ever kissed her before. He should not be doing this. I am his queen, not his woman.
It was a long kiss, though how long Dany could not have said. When it ended, Ser Jorah let go of her, and she took a quick step backward. “You... you should not have...”
“I should not have waited so Iong,” he finished for her. “I should have kissed you in Qarth, in Vaes Tolorro. I should have kissed you in the red waste, every night and every day. You were made to be kissed, often and well.” His eyes were on her breasts.
Dany covered them with her hands, before her nipples could betray her. “I... that was not fitting. I am your queen.”
“My queen,” he said, “and the bravest, sweetest, and most beautiful woman I have ever seen. Daenerys -
“Your Grace!”
“Your Grace,” he conceded, “the dragon has three heads, remember? You have wondered at that, ever since you heard it from the warlocks in the House of Dust. Well, here’s your meaning: Balerion, Meraxes, and Vhagar, ridden by Aegon, Rhaenys, and Visenya. The three-headed dragon of House Targaryen - three dragons, and three riders.”
“Yes,” said Dany, “but my brothers are dead.”
“Rhaenys and Visenya were Aegon’s wives as well as his sisters. You have no brothers, but you can take husbands. And I tell you truly, Daenerys, there is no man in all the world who will ever be half so true to you as me.”
-A Song of Ice and Fire: Book Three - A Storm of Swords, Chapter Eight (Daenerys I).

He tells her so again when she banishes him:

“I protected you. I fought for you. Killed for you.”
Kissed me, she thought, betrayed me.
“I went down into the sewers like a rat. For you.”
It might have been kinder if you’d died there. Dany said nothing. There was nothing to say.
“Daenerys,” he said, “I have loved you.
And there it was. Three treasons will you know once for blood and once for gold and once for love.
-A Song of Ice and Fire: Book Three - A Storm of Swords, Chapter Fourty-Two (Daenerys VI).

But to no avail, she banishes him and he embarks on his quest to escape the dreaded Friendzone; and fails miserably, even finds a whore in the Volantene whorehouse who looks like Dany. Oh, poor Jorah!

But this is why he goes through the trouble of trying to take Tyrion back to Dany, he thinks that it will win back her trust for him.

  • Yup, that's more than concrete. Thanks. Should have made it to the show. For his motivations & character development Commented May 29, 2015 at 5:13
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    Jesus, I'd heard that the show deviated from the books, but... jesus. Commented May 30, 2015 at 4:37
  • @LightnessRacesinOrbit Yes, the show has deviated (a bit), and all for the better. The Dany chapters from the books at this point are aimless and mostly pointless (GRRM admitted at one point he didn't know how to resolve the "Meereenese knot"). The show goes to the point. Kudos to HBO! :)
    – Andres F.
    Commented Jun 2, 2015 at 15:36
  • As for Ser Jorah, he blatantly loves Daenerys in both the books and TV show, so no deviation there...
    – Andres F.
    Commented Jun 2, 2015 at 15:37
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    @LightnessRacesinOrbit The TV show couldn't have filmed the books as written; it would have made them illegal child pornography in nearly all jurisdictions, including the US.
    – Mike Scott
    Commented Jun 8, 2015 at 7:02

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